Good news for people who love - The good times are killing me

A couple of weeks ago I went on 4 dates with a very nice guy. The last date ended kissing on his couch and making out. And then that was it, when I met him the next time he said he thought he was not actually ready for a relationship and that he was not yet over his ex-girlfriend. I translated that to mean even though we had had a great time he a) was just not that into me or b) he did not want a relationship with me. That is all fine and both the same thing, I tried to go into the dating with no expectations as is told in the book Its Just a Date.

Now the Book says the key to no expection dating is to date a couple of men at once this way you have a more reasonable outlook and there is less pressure for it to work out with guy A or B. The trick though is, it is hard enough to get one person to date you how are you going to more than that.

Take Care

Girl

Sunday Smile 2

My younger sister is in town, she came up for the weekend to see my other sister who has just had twins. Yes Kate has had twins - I will write all about that soon, with photos!

I fight a lot with Julia, but perhaps in a healthy sisterly way. I went to fetch her with my mom from the airport last night. It must have been at least 10 minutes before she told me to shut up and said " Good Lord! girl you are the absolute worst back seat driver I have ever met, shut up! They say sisters who fight don't become anorexic. How about if the fight is about one sister calling the other sister anorexic and telling everyone that she is, what then?

But Julia really is great, she kind of holds us all together as a family and makes things interesting and fun. My mom says it is because she makes an effort, asks what we are up to, and is interested in what we are doing - this I don't quite agree with, Julia interested in me? no not sure about that.

For along time she thought I was mad for wanting a boyfriend, infact I think she even said " Girl I think you are a little bit crazy why would you want a boyfriend? all men are bastards". Okay I know calling all men bastards is a little strong but sometimes if you see it from our point of view you might just agree with us.

So Julia claims she does not want a boyfriend - actually let me clarify that statement, She does not need a boyfriend, she likes her life quite how it is. She likes her friends, she likes her T.V she likes her flat, she is incredibly busy. (she is just finishing her final year before she becomes a real Doctor). This makes sense to me too, I don't need a boyfriend - I perhaps just want a boyfriend.

I felt it clearly when I went on a couple of dates during this past month, I realised that I just wanted to be appreciated by a man. (Of course not just any man the right one who makes me happy blah blah blah.)

So Julia is in town and she and Kate and my mom are going shopping this morning. Friday, which is a work day for me. So I kicked up a fuss as I am expected to do and now we are also going shopping on Saturday, to Rosebank and I am going to buy that really cute winter dressing gown it is grey has a zip and a hood.

Sunday Smile

I live in Johannesburg, a great city. There is no sea though and no significant amount of water. But that is okay there is still lots to do. I am mostly single. I am single today and I was single yesterday but I had a boyfriend at the end of February but sadly not at the beginning of March.

I heard the song Sunday Smile for the first time appropriately on a Sunday. I was waiting for this guy to phone. He promised he would call on Saturday and there was no phone call. It made me very anxious, so anxious in fact that I checked facebook in case he had contacted me there. But there was no message, instead there was a new post from him - this song Sunday Smile by Beruit. It was the music video which you can go watch on Youtube. Wow, it is so beautiful and it completely captivated me and inspired me, all those things. I watched it twice and found that I could download the song for free from the musicians own website ( I am pretty sure I don't believe in free downloads unless it is actually from the artist). I added it to my playlist.

Well this guy did phone me later that day on the Sunday, and it was the start of a great friendship and a romance. Which I have now put behind me and moved on from.

He broke up with me on the 1 March because we were not right for each other, something which I did not want to admit but I can now see is true. The song Sunday Smile reminds me of that first hopefull yet anxious Sunday.